Saturday, July 10, 2010

Tween Wisdom On Messing Up

A weekend highlight for the tribe is our Sunday Night coffee dates. With Mass, grocery trips, mall raids, school meetings, family outings and housekeeping done, Sunday evening has become our official family time. After dinner, dressed down in pajamas and house clothes, our tribe would go to a coffee shop near our home and over frothy coffee concoctions, we gather ‘round to relax and reconnect. There’s no specific program flow or agenda for this assembly. Sometimes, we do silly things like play board games or take turns biting off the last available Oatmeal Raisin cookie or watch our little boy charm the baristas. Oftentimes, we share our highs and lows for the past week. Most of the time, we just sit there together and say whatever’s on our mind.

Recently, I was inspired by a scene in the movie “Spanglish” where the mom asked her daughter if what the daughter wanted was to be different from her mom. It’s a tough question, especially when you’re asking someone who will not waste time sugarcoating the answer. But emboldened by caffeine, I tackled the topic with my daughter during our coffee date.


“Did it ever cross your mind to want to become like me?” I asked bravely, casually...as if I was not holding my breath.